Wednesday, August 14, 2013

We heard the heart beat!!!

Well....kind of....but not really.





There was no trip to the doctor's office and no monitor to look at. No, today we had our first home study interview and home tour! YAY!

Although I have never actually been pregnant, I feel this moment is most closely related to that first Dr. visit where they do an ultrasound and you finally get to hear the baby's heart beat.

Up until now, all you have done is pee on a stick, watch a line appear, and voila! PREGNANT! So you make some minor changes. You start eating healthier, take some vitamins, aka. horse pills, and start thinking of names. Maybe you day dream about whether you will have a boy or a girl, wonder what color hair they will have, what their personality will be like or any other range of thoughts. I have to assume on these next ones though. Maybe a small part of you wonders, is there really a baby in there? I mean...you don't feel any different...at least not until the daily nausea and indigestion sets in. You can't feel it moving around in there. Your toes are still visible and you are still able to tie your shoes normally. Those favorite jeans of yours still fit just like they always have. And at this point you probably haven't eaten the entire county's grocery supply of ice cream, pickles or whatever else it is you may be craving! So is there really a baby in there? Growing? Developing?

This is how I have felt since April when we got our acceptance letter from Lifeline. It's as though I saw a line appear on a stick and then have started a flurry of activities.

Prayer...#1...for our child, wherever they are. For their safely. For love and affection. For food. For their learning and development. For those providing for them. For shelter. For anything we can think of....we pray.

Education....both Kyle and I have completed our Hague Adoption training. This is basically a series of online modules that provide detailed information regarding the adoption process and different things to expect. Although it seemed daunting at the time, now that we are finished we are thankful for the opportunity to learn so much. We also both read two different books on adoption. Both have been wonderful, each in different ways, and have further helped us prepare for the journey we are on.





Saving....and crafting. Many of you are probably aware of the large amount of money required for adopting your child. This may seem unreasonable, daunting or just plain unattainable to some. But not for those of us who are in Christ. We trust in the Lord to provide the funds. Simple as that. At the same time, we have made some changes to our finances to better prepare for this. So Kyle is working extra hours and I have been selling crafts. We have been humbled and overwhelmed at the generosity of family, friends, and strangers (used to be anyway). God is and will continue to provide. :)

Many other things have been happening along the way. I will spare you the details for now, but if you are interested, just ask. We both would love to share.

But today was the day when we finally had that moment. The "wow....there really IS a baby in there!" kind of moment. We met our social worker who will be completing our home study, which eventually will be sent to Hungary as part of our adoption paperwork. Although I was worried about if our house was clean enough, the one load of laundry that didn't get done before she arrived and the stash of crafting supplies that has cluttered our two spare bedrooms, she was more interested in things like our marriage and what we like to do for fun. :) I'm not sure what exactly she thought of our locked medicine cabinet, which really was an old ammunition box turned medicine cabinet so we could lock them, but she said it was fine. You will be pretty creative when you are trying to save money and need to lock up your medicines!!   The Lord was with us and brought great comfort. All in all it went well and we are on to the next step. We both will be writing our autobiographies and then planning our next interview.

We are thankful to the Lord for guiding us through every step of this process. He has provided in more ways than we ever imagined, and keeps on giving. We are looking forward to what comes next. :)


Tuesday, July 9, 2013

For the record...

As I sit down to write, I look back over the first posting I made in April. 



If I can be completely transparent about my sins and struggles with you, I would say that part of me really wants to whine and complain right now. Why are we not further along in this process yet? It has been three months and we are still waiting to have our first in home interview for our homestudy. Why does it have to take so long? Our child is growing up in someone else's arms. Why does someone else get to rock them to sleep at night? Why do they get to read them a bedtime story? Why does someone else get to feed them for the first time? Why does someone else get to watch them take their first steps? Why does someone else get to hear them utter their first words? We are missing out on so many things. Why. Why. Why. 



I could go on and on, but God ever so patiently and gracefully reminds me why we are in this process.



You see, we aren't doing this just because we want to have kids. We aren't doing this just because we feel ready to expand our family. We aren't doing this just because we love kids. We aren't doing this because we think it will make us feel good. We aren't doing this because the world tells us we should have kids by now. We aren't doing this just because we want to and think it will be a crazy, wild experience. 



NO. 



We do this because of Jesus Christ and for His glory alone. Period.



I have heard from several people that we inspire them by what we are doing. The only thing I ever hope to inspire you to do, is look to and follow Jesus Christ. Nothing more. God has told us "Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world." James 1:27 "to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen." Ephesians 3:21 We pray that God will use us to bring people to Him, as He wills.



So when the thought of complaining or doubt, or whatever "it" may be starts to creep into your head, align your heart with Christ. We trust in Christ alone.



With that said, some of you may be wondering where we are in the process. Currently we are waiting for one final piece of paperwork to get sent to our social worker. Once she has it in her hands, we can schedule our first in home interview! In the meantime, Kyle and I are working diligently at gathering documents, reading and completing online training modules. It is all great stuff and we are excited to have the opportunity to prepare ourselves, even just a little bit. :)

Till next time,

-Jana

Sunday, June 2, 2013

Overwhelmed...

...by God's grace...

In Sunday school class this morning we talked for a moment about delight, specifically in God. We read this, "...delight is incomplete until it is shared. The heart that is impacted by the love of God.....naturally desires to communicate that love with others." I realized I had been holding in this great joy and not sharing just because I wasn't sure exactly what to say, how to say it, or it didn't seem like the right timing...

God has brought our family through some pretty difficult times. Over the past month, there have been countless times that God has revealed to me the abundance of grace He has poured out on our lives. It is just so overwhelming. I am so excited about it I just want to shout it from the rooftops! So much so, I can't seem to put it into words....crazy, right?

So before you commit to never reading this blog again ;), let me leave you with some encouraging words of truth that bring me great joy:



"And you were dead in the trespasses and sins 2 in which 
you once walked, following the course of this world, 
following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that 
is now at work in the sons of disobedience—3 among 
whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, 
carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, 
and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of 
mankind. 4 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the 
great love with which he loved us, 5 even when we were
dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with 
Christ—by grace you have been saved—6 and raised us up 
with him and seated us with him in  the heavenly places 
in Christ Jesus, 7 so that in the coming ages he might show 
the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward 
us in Christ Jesus. 8 For by grace you have been saved through 
faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, 
9 not a result of works, so that no one may boast. 10 For we are 
his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which 
God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them." 

Ephesians 2:1-10







Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Sisters fighting for the same cause

I want to introduce you to a friend of mine. Her name is Dorothy. I've never actually met her, but we are united as sisters in Christ. Previously she lived in Florida. You know....that beautiful place people move to when they retire. A place where people live out the rest of their days relaxing and basking in the sun, all while laying on white sandy beaches. There are frequent golf outings and expensive meals out with friends. Sounds great, right?

Not for Mrs. Dorothy.

(Kyle at Mrs. Dorothy's)

Remember the orphanages I mentioned visiting while Kyle and I were in Haiti last October? Well, Dorothy runs one of them. Many years ago, she left Florida behind and moved to Port Au Prince, Haiti to care for orphans. To care for the fatherless. To care for those who would otherwise be left to fend for themselves on some very dangerous streets. Even worse, those who may have been sold as sex slaves. Those who, because of their medical diagnoses, may have been left to die or starved by their parents because they knew they wouldn't survive anyway. No, I did not make this up. At one of the clinics, we met a family that told us this very thing.....and met their four-yaer-old boy who could fit into an infant car seat because his family wasn't feeding him. Why? He wouldn't survive anyway....

This is REAL stuff, happening every day. 

A majority of the children residing in Mrs. Dorothy's orphanage are HIV positive. They require extra care and medication. Many of the other children have medical needs, as well. This is a big job. They work hard to make sure all of the children are getting their needs met. 

Unfortunately, the Haitian government is currently working to shut down the orphanage that Mrs. Dorothy runs. She has learned that the written Haitian law is not always what is followed or enforced. She is  fighting a battle with a corrupt government. Right now we don't know why, but can trust the Lord to provide for those children.

So, now what?

Pray. Pray for Dorothy. Pray for the women working in the orphanage. Pray for the children. Pray for the Haitian government. Pray for peace. Pray for resolution. Pray for endurance, strength, wisdom and patience. Pray for them. 




Thank you for your prayers and support. 

Thank you for taking the time to read this.




Wednesday, April 17, 2013

We are expecting!!

That's right! The Anderson family is now expecting a child! No, I am not pregnant. We are adopting!!

Wow....did I really just say that?! Things are about to get crazy!

We have decided to adopt a child that is four years old or younger. Boy or girl - makes no difference to us. Hungary is where we are headed. Yep....Hungary. Who would have ever guessed?? Funny how God works sometimes, sending you places you never dreamed. I had jokingly said to a friend a few months ago, "We think we might adopt from Uganda. We know nothing about those European countries like Hungary." Hah!

You can check out some information about the journey we are embarking on here.

So, why adopt? God really began working in our hearts for adoption long before we ever realized it. First, and most importantly, we have been adopted by God through faith in Jesus Christ. Romans 8:15 "For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, "Abba! Father!" and Ephesians 1:5-6 "In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved." Also, some of you may know, Kyle was adopted as a baby, so it is very personal to us. Next came our mission trip to Haiti. We spent several days visiting orphanages while in country. This is where the Lord really moved us. Countless children, living in orphanages, fatherless. We learned their names. We held them in our laps. We played games with them. We smiled and laughed with them. We cried with them.  We hugged them. We loved them. So now, here we are....adopting from Hungary 6 months later.

We are very early in the process.....we received our official acceptance letter April 5th. I am hoping this blog will be glorifying to Christ and a blessing to you.